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A photorealistic view from behind a large computer monitor shows only the upper face of a young woman peeking over the top edge. Her eyes are wide and her lips slightly parted in surprise as she looks at something on the hidden screen.
Surprise!

Did he cheat on me? I (F23) broke up with my boyfriend (M25) after I found some photos on his computer.

We dated for almost three years. One day, I was trying to find a file I needed on his computer. Then I opened a folder inside another folder. I was not looking through his things. I found the pictures by accident.

The photos were of a girl he used to know well. She was posing naked outside. I could tell he saved them from her Instagram Story. To me, this was not the same as looking at a random girl online. He knew her, and that changed everything.

Before this, we had many honest talks about what we think is cheating. We both said trust matters a lot. He said I was too upset over a few pictures. He also said he did not know I would feel this bad. I still feel hurt. Did I make the right choice?

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Speaker: American Female  Duration: 1:16  YouTube

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  1. Q: What things can hurt someone's feelings in a relationship?

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  1. because / so / but

    He knew the girl, so that changed everything for the poster.

  2. Q: What things can hurt someone's feelings in a relationship?

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    A person can feel hurt when their partner keeps private photos of an ex because this can make them feel less important.

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    I think, trust matters a lot in a relationship.

Discussion Questions
  1. Why did the poster feel this was cheating?
  2. Was breaking up the right thing to do?
  3. Is her ex-boyfriend a bad guy? Why?
  4. She looked in a folder on his computer. Was that a mistake?
  5. Do you have your own computer? Do you share a computer?
  6. What kinds of photos do you save?
  7. Can people in a relationship keep some things private?
  8. What things can hurt someone's feelings in a relationship?

Discussion Questions

  1. Why did the poster feel this was cheating?
  2. Was breaking up the right thing to do?
  3. Is her ex-boyfriend a bad guy? Why?
  4. She looked in a folder on his computer. Was that a mistake?
  5. Do you have your own computer? Do you share a computer?
  6. What kinds of photos do you save?
  7. Can people in a relationship keep some things private?
  8. What things can hurt someone's feelings in a relationship?