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Lesson Info

Type
Social Post
Level
3 / B1
Published
Title
Dirty Dishes in the Sink
Webpage
https://eslnewsstories.com/smposts/dirty-dishes-in-the-sink/

Lesson Content

Warm-up, Vocab List, Reading and Audio

Understanding: Read the Comments, Why Did They Post?, True or False, Put Events in Order, Multiple Choice

Language: Words That Go Together, Everyday Expressions

Use It: Discussion Builder, Discussion Questions

Answers

Think Ahead: Which mistake do you think the poster makes in this post?

a) He treats a serious problem like a joke.

b) He hides money problems from his girlfriend.

c) He asks her brothers for help.

A bright, tidy apartment kitchen with a sink full of dirty dishes in the foreground and a suitcase standing near the doorway in the background.
Dirty dishes in the sink.

Ask: (1) Who usually does the dishes in your home? (2) How should couples share housework?

Vocab List

unfair (adj.) — Not right or not equal.
deserve (v.) — If you deserve something, it is right for you to have it.
afford (v.) — To have enough money for something.
lazy (adj.) — Not willing to work or make an effort.
furious (adj.) — Very angry.
relationship (n.) — The way two people are connected to each other.
repack (v.) — To pack a bag again.
refuse (v.) — To say no and not agree to do something.

Reading

My girlfriend and I have been together for four years and lived together for one. For a long time, we have argued about the dishes. I hate doing them, and she says that is unfair.

She says I do not only hate washing dishes. I hate all cleaning. If she does the dishes, she thinks she will have to do all the other cleaning too. We cannot afford a cleaner, so that is not an answer.

Last week she was away on a work trip. I stayed home and left all the dirty dishes in the sink. When she came back yesterday, she saw them and became furious. I joked that our history should have told her I would not clean.

The joke did not help. I said it was only a few dishes, but she turned away. Then she repacked her suitcase, left the apartment, and ignored my calls and messages. This morning she said she was ending the relationship.

She told me she did not deserve a dirty home or a lazy boyfriend. She also said she was not my mother. I asked if a few dirty dishes were enough to end our relationship. She said my actions had already answered that question. Now her brothers are coming tomorrow for her things, and she still refuses to meet me. I do not know what to do.

Dirty Dishes in the Sink

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A bright, tidy apartment kitchen with a sink full of dirty dishes in the foreground and a suitcase standing near the doorway in the background.
Dirty dishes in the sink.
Poster
Leonard

My girlfriend and I have been together for four years and lived together for one. For a long time, we have argued about the dishes. I hate doing them, and she says that is unfair.

She says I do not only hate washing dishes. I hate all cleaning. If she does the dishes, she thinks she will have to do all the other cleaning too. We cannot afford a cleaner, so that is not an answer.

Last week she was away on a work trip. I stayed home and left all the dirty dishes in the sink. When she came back yesterday, she saw them and became furious. I joked that our history should have told her I would not clean.

The joke did not help. I said it was only a few dishes, but she turned away. Then she repacked her suitcase, left the apartment, and ignored my calls and messages. This morning she said she was ending the relationship.

She told me she did not deserve a dirty home or a lazy boyfriend. She also said she was not my mother. I asked if a few dirty dishes were enough to end our relationship. She said my actions had already answered that question. Now her brothers are coming tomorrow for her things, and she still refuses to meet me. I do not know what to do.

Read the Comments

Read the Comments

  • Daffy

    You joked about a problem that mattered to her, so it is not surprising that she left.

    This comment

    b. Explains why his joke upset her
  • Mary

    This sounds like the final straw. It feels like the dishes were only one part of a much bigger problem.

    This comment

    c. Suggests that there were other problems in the relationship
  • Jacob

    Give her some space for now, then apologize honestly if she is willing to hear from you.

    This comment

    a. Advises him on what to do next
  1. a. Advises him on what to do next
  2. b. Explains why his joke upset her
  3. c. Suggests that there were other problems in the relationship

Speaker: Australian Male  Duration: 1:28  YouTube

Listen and Fill Gaps

Listen to the audio on eslnewsstories.com and complete the gaps below:

My girlfriend and I have been together for four years and lived together for one. For a long time, we have (1) about the dishes. I hate doing them, and she says that is unfair.

She says I do not only hate washing dishes. I hate all cleaning. If she does the dishes, she thinks she will have to do all the other cleaning too. We cannot afford a (2) , so that is not an answer.

Last week she was away on a work trip. I stayed home and left all the dirty dishes in the (3) . When she came back yesterday, she saw them and became (4) . I joked that our history should have told her I would not clean.

The joke did not help. I said it was only a few dishes, but she turned away. Then she repacked her (5) , left the apartment, and ignored my calls and messages. This morning she said she was ending the relationship.

She told me she did not deserve a dirty home or a lazy boyfriend. She also said she was not my mother. I asked if a few dirty dishes were enough to end our (6) . She said my actions had already answered that question. Now her brothers are coming tomorrow for her things, and she still refuses to meet me. I do not know what to do.

Why Did They Post?

Choose one answer, then click CHECK to see your result.

Why Did They Post?

Choose one:

  • He wants advice because his girlfriend is leaving and will not talk to him. Correct answer
  • He wants to know if dirty dishes are a good reason to end a relationship.
  • He wants ideas for sharing the cleaning more fairly.
True or False

Answer each question by selecting True or False, then click CHECK to see your results.

  • The poster says he and his girlfriend have lived together for one year.
  • The couple can afford to hire a cleaner.
  • The poster cleaned the dishes before his girlfriend came home from her trip.
  • Her brothers are coming tomorrow to take her things.

True or False

1. The poster says he and his girlfriend have lived together for one year. TRUEFALSE True

2. The couple can afford to hire a cleaner. TRUEFALSE False

3. The poster cleaned the dishes before his girlfriend came home from her trip. TRUEFALSE False

4. Her brothers are coming tomorrow to take her things. TRUEFALSE True

Put Events in Order

Put the events in the order they happened, from first to last.

  • 1 The couple argued about dishes and cleaning for a long time.
  • 2 The girlfriend went away on a work trip.
  • 3 The poster left all the dirty dishes in the sink.
  • 4 She came home, saw the dishes, and became furious.
  • 5 She ended the relationship.

Put Events in Order

Put the events from the story in the correct order from first (1) to last (5):

  • She came home, saw the dishes, and became furious.
  • The couple argued about dishes and cleaning for a long time.
  • She ended the relationship.
  • The girlfriend went away on a work trip.
  • The poster left all the dirty dishes in the sink.
  1. The couple argued about dishes and cleaning for a long time.
  2. The girlfriend went away on a work trip.
  3. The poster left all the dirty dishes in the sink.
  4. She came home, saw the dishes, and became furious.
  5. She ended the relationship.
Multiple Choice

Answer each question by selecting A, B, or C, then click CHECK to see your results.

  • Why does the girlfriend say it is unfair if she does the dishes?
  • What did the poster do while his girlfriend was away on a work trip?
  • What happened after the poster joked about the dirty dishes?
  • What does the poster say will happen tomorrow?

Multiple Choice

1. Why does the girlfriend say it is unfair if she does the dishes?

   a) Because the poster always buys paper plates

   b) Because the kitchen is too small for two people

   c) Because she thinks she will end up doing all the other cleaning tooCorrect

2. What did the poster do while his girlfriend was away on a work trip?

   a) He left all the dirty dishes in the sinkCorrect

   b) He hired someone to clean the apartment

   c) He stayed with his brother for a few days

3. What happened after the poster joked about the dirty dishes?

   a) His girlfriend laughed and washed them

   b) She asked him to cook dinner

   c) She repacked her suitcase, left, and ignored his calls and messagesCorrect

4. What does the poster say will happen tomorrow?

   a) He will go to his girlfriend's office

   b) Her brothers will come for her thingsCorrect

   c) They will meet to talk at home

Listen and Fill Gaps

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Words That Go Together

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Words That Go Together

Match each word with the words it goes with:

1. dof) the dishes

2. afforde) a cleaner

3. repackd) a suitcase

4. ignorec) calls and messages

5. endb) a relationship

6. answera) a question

a) a question

b) a relationship

c) calls and messages

d) a suitcase

e) a cleaner

f) the dishes

Everyday Expressions

  1. Choose the meaning of 'did not help'. If something did not help, it
  2. Choose the meaning of 'I’m not your mother'. If someone says, “ I’m not your mother,” they mean

Everyday Expressions

Choose the correct meaning.

  1. If something did not help, it did not happen as planned. or did not improve the situation.
  2. If someone says, “ I’m not your mother,” they mean they should not have to take care of you like a child. or the two of you are not related.

Discussion Builder

  1. Q: Do you think this breakup is only about the dishes? Explain.

    A:

  2. Q: What advice would you give the poster right now?

    A:

  3. Q: Should the girlfriend meet the poster before taking her things? Why or why not?

    A:

Discussion Builder

Choose the best phrase for each gap:

  1. Q: Do you think this breakup is only about the dishes? Explain.

    A: I do not think this breakup was only about the dishes they had argued about cleaning for a long time.

    and / but / because / so

    I do not think this breakup was only about the dishes because they had argued about cleaning for a long time.

  2. Q: What advice would you give the poster right now?

    A: The poster should say sorry give her some space right now.

    and / but / because / so

    The poster should say sorry and give her some space right now.

  3. Q: Should the girlfriend meet the poster before taking her things? Why or why not?

    A: To me, the girlfriend should not meet him before taking her things she may need space after the argument.

    because / unless / although / if

    To me, the girlfriend should not meet him before taking her things because she may need space after the argument.

Discussion Questions
  1. Do you think this breakup is only about the dishes? Explain.
  2. Was the poster wrong to joke about the dishes? Why or why not?
  3. What advice would you give the poster right now?
  4. What advice would you give the girlfriend?
  5. What chores do you dislike most? Why?
  6. Have you ever lived with someone who had very different cleaning habits?
  7. Should the girlfriend meet the poster before taking her things? Why or why not?
  8. Is leaving instead of arguing sometimes the better choice?
  9. What does 'I am not your mother' mean in this story?

Discussion Questions

  1. Do you think this breakup is only about the dishes? Explain.
  2. Was the poster wrong to joke about the dishes? Why or why not?
  3. What advice would you give the poster right now?
  4. What advice would you give the girlfriend?
  5. What chores do you dislike most? Why?
  6. Have you ever lived with someone who had very different cleaning habits?
  7. Should the girlfriend meet the poster before taking her things? Why or why not?
  8. Is leaving instead of arguing sometimes the better choice?
  9. What does 'I am not your mother' mean in this story?

Answers Dirty Dishes in the Sink / Level 3

Read the Comments:

  1. Daffy: b. Explains why his joke upset her
  2. Mary: c. Suggests that there were other problems in the relationship
  3. Jacob: a. Advises him on what to do next

Listening: (1) argued, (2) cleaner, (3) sink, (4) furious, (5) suitcase, (6) relationship

Why Did They Post?: He wants advice because his girlfriend is leaving and will not talk to him.

True or False:

  1. True. He says they have been together for four years and lived together for one.
  2. False. The poster says they cannot afford a cleaner, so that is not an answer.
  3. False. He says he stayed home and left all the dirty dishes in the sink.
  4. True. At the end, he says her brothers are coming tomorrow for her things.

Multiple Choice: c, a, c, b

Put Events in Order:

  1. The couple argued about dishes and cleaning for a long time.
  2. The girlfriend went away on a work trip.
  3. The poster left all the dirty dishes in the sink.
  4. She came home, saw the dishes, and became furious.
  5. She ended the relationship.

Vocabulary:

  1. do: the dishes
  2. afford: a cleaner
  3. repack: a suitcase
  1. ignore: calls and messages
  2. end: a relationship
  3. answer: a question

Everyday Expressions: 1. b; 2. a

Discussion Builder:

Hints: 1) Reason. 2) Addition. 3) Reason.

  1. because
  2. and
  3. because

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